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I'm a 33 year old male and my question concerns sex drive.  I started having sex regularly since the age of 20 and all that time I have never found sexual intercourse to be exciting nor satisfying.  I find masturbation to be quite satisfying but only when I can look at pictures, watch movies or read sex stories alone.  I have had a partner that masturbated me with lubricant while telling me erotic stories that I found kinda exciting but not enough to crave for.  I have made a lot of personal advancement about this and I believe that masturbating a lot for me is not a cause but a consequence of my unsatisfying sexual intercours.  What would you recommend me to do to gain sex drive during sexual intercourse and finally have a satisfying sexuality with a partner? Thanks a lot.
 Stéphane

Dear Stephane, 
From the sounds of your letter, it seems to me that your sex drive is fine.  The issue that you are having seems more likely to relate to your communication skills.  From your letter, I am left wondering what your conversations with your partner(s) are like.  Have your really communicated to her what turns you on? What are your teaching methods? What does a teaching moment look like?  Does she really know what turns you on? While I firmly believe that masturbation is wonderful, exciting and pleasurable, two-person sex offers an element of surprise that solo-sex could never do. In two-person sex, you are not in control.  Furthermore, two-person sex offers twice the number of hands and mouths to do things that you could never begin to do alone. Imagine masturbating, while she is sucking on the tip of your penis.

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